Choosing ME before WE

Know yourself. Be honest with yourself. Love yourself. Trust yourself. First. Then consider HE and WE, never settling for less than what your heart and soul desire.

I have seen too many of the women I love settle for less because they didn’t believe the kind of partner they wanted actually existed, or, sadly, they didn’t learn to love themselves first. In reality, the possibility for true partnership and companionship exists only when we choose to believe that these things begin with our relationship to ME.

My mistake had been in trying to make my “ex-person” into something he was not.

Only months later would I realize that this man had actually given me the greatest gift ever: my freedom.

learned that to fully and wholeheartedly love another I first needed to fully and wholeheartedly embrace my “self.”

What I realized shortly after the initial blow of my relationship’s end was that I had failed to understand that, above all else, I needed to honor the most important relationship in my life first — the one with myself.

no matter how special you are, you have no more power than any other woman to change this man

appointing yourself as fixer is not only arrogant but a sure sign that you’re avoiding something in your own life. Fixers love to focus on other people because it keeps the attention off their own problems.

Truth: Only he can change himself,

Lie: I can fix him. He’ll change for me