Nora Phoenix

“But if you’re with someone, don’t they deserve to know everything about you?”

“Deserve? No. That implies a right, an entitlement, and I don’t agree with that. Do I think it’s healthy to talk and share important events in our lives? Absolutely. But I won’t demand it from you, and neither would I want to feel obligated to share everything with you. It’s a privilege and an honor, but never a right, not even in a relationship. People still deserve a modicum of privacy.”

he needs this on a much deeper level. He requires it to forgive himself for fucking up so he can move on.

“I understand why you word it like that,” he finally says. “But I don’t like that you think of yourself as difficult. You’re not. Your identity doesn’t change that. Not the gay aspect, but neither does the submissive aspect or anything else you discover about yourself. You’re valid and good the way you are.”