Laura Doyle

It’s not right and it’s not fair, but it is human nature that when people feel controlled, they sometimes dig in their heels and do the opposite

the less I jump on things to get them done, the more John picks up the slack

If helping him is going to interfere with your self-care or your happiness, then it’s probably too high a price to a pay

Your husband might be irritated in the moment when you don’t help him, but remember that even more than your help, your husband wants you to be happy. That’s his priority

What I want to be is my husband’s lover. I want him to desire, adore, and cherish me. Men don’t desire their mothers, so when I’m acting like my husband’s mother, I’m pouring cold water on the embers of passion

You don’t want to be your husband’s mother. You want him to find you irresistible to kiss and touch. It’s hard to get there when you’re telling him what to do with his money

But if you don’t receive from him, then the cycle is broken. He doesn’t get to feel proud and you don’t get to feel taken care of, and so the intimacy is lost.

you can’t give and receive at the same time. The more you’re doing things for a man, the less you’re in a position to receive

Seeing you satisfied from his efforts is a big part of what makes him feel successful as a husband.

You learn to speak by speaking, to study by studying, to run by running, to work by working; in just the same way, you learn to love by loving