Steven Schuster

Sometimes the most common things surrounding us are the hardest to notice.

It’s so much easier to believe what we hear from our loved ones. If you’re like me, you hardly ever question them. You don’t run to verify what your dad said about car engine malfunction. You don’t contradict what your mother says about marriage management. You have a cognitive bias toward those who touch your emotional mind.

But now you saw or heard something groundbreaking, and besides, it’s Monday, the first day of the month…

The more educated people are, the greater danger they face to fall prey to overthinking.

You can’t change the natural flow of life, but you can change how you choose to interpret it.

It is the cognitive manifestation of boredom, disappointment, and sense of meaninglessness. Aggressive thoughts like the ones above ease our frustration a little bit. But they create a different type of frustration. It is frustrating when life doesn’t comply with our self-centered needs.

example, if you put too much thought into negative expectations, you’ll constantly fear tragedies and unfortunate outcomes. If you use your thoughts to focus on money, you’ll feel you’ll never have enough. If you want to get a partner desperately, the longer the days will seem when you don’t have one. Whatever you care too much about will eat you alive.

Most of the time you are unconscious about what you power with your thoughts. Your cognitive powers become cognitive habits. They become your default thinking settings.

Changing your mental habits is not about changing the world, but rather accepting it and learning to feel good about it anyway.1

teaches that instead of telling yourself “I am angry” say “I feel anger.” You are not the human form of anger. You just got poisoned by this emotion. Making this little thought switch, you’ll defuse yourself from the emotion.