Anna Premoli

if I have understood one thing, totally at my own cost and with a lot of suffering, it is that none of us is absolutely for or against anything. Sure, we have our natural inclinations and traumas from the things that have hurt us along the way, but that’s not what drives us in our choices .You can even be in favour of marriage but maybe never meet the person it’s actually worth building something so serious with. In fact, plenty of people are quite happy with what they’ve got, and don’t go on looking. Maybe they are in a period of their life when ‘marriage’ is a box that needs ticking, and they marry someone who it’s not worth building anything with. Or, as in your case, they happen to think that they’re naturally disposed to be against long term relationships, and it doesn’t matter if you want to call it living together or marriage. But then you meet a special person – one you immediately feel an affinity with and an attraction for that you don’t feel for anyone else. So what do you do when you have that bit of luck? Don’t you just jump in head first?”