Emotional Intelligence

Ever heard of the old saying "don't go to bed angry?" This saying means to take care of the issues that anger you before you suppress them and allow them to take hold of your body. Find that outlet before you rest, release them, let them go, then rest well. It is good advice and advice we all should take to heart (because it is good for our hearts!)

emotional intelligence is the act of using and viewing the emotions through perception, control, and evaluation.

emotions are a part of who you are and that there is no such thing

Close your eyes, clench your fist and scream as loud as you can in your head. Instead of actually doing it you will be pretending to do it and this method is very effective in the spur of the moment

Stop and simply listen or observe your thoughts. What is it you daydream? Write this down, and write down what you are feeling as you do this. Not only does this help in identifying emotions, it helps you to release them as well. It also shows patterns you may experience, and will indicate triggers to emotions as well.

Bad memories are another thing that can invoke painful emotions and hurts. These types of things are often suppressed to keep from dealing with it. Write down the moments when these memories surface. The next step with bad memories is to release them as best you can. If the bad memory is from a hurt caused by another person, try to forgive the person, even if they have never asked for it. Forgiveness is a way to release them from continuing to hurt you.

Fatigue is probably the number one symptom of emotion suppression and the beginning of a long list of physical ailments if the emotion stays buried

EQ-i (Emotional Quotient Inventory)
The EQ-i measures awareness, happiness, and problem solving and stress tolerance. Those are the main catalyst to emotions and occur without us having to "think" about them. This is also a self-test.
The upgraded version to the EQ-i is the EQ-i 2.0. This is a very popular emotional assessment test. This test has 133 questions that give a greater indication of the well-being emotions through 16 elements under five distinct categories as follows:
Under decision making there are two elements with problem solving and reality testing. With problem solving it looks at how a person arrives to solving problems in particular with emotional issues. This element shows the understanding of emotions and how the reaction to them directly affects decision making. Reality testing looks at the ability to see the true picture. Sometimes emotions cloud judgment and this requires the ability to stand back and be unbiased

One important piece of advice on improving emotional intelligence: do not judge yourself. Simply accept what was, look at what is and seek to make what will be better

Sometimes when we suppress emotions, we feel as if we are keeping secrets. (I have a secret; I am so angry and hurt because of this certain person. But shhhh.... it is a secret...) Turning the suppressed emotion into a secret has ugly effects later. It leads to mental issues. Release it for mental health's sake

The next step with bad memories is to release them as best you can. If the bad memory is from a hurt caused by another person, try to forgive the person, even if they have never asked for it. Forgiveness is a way to release them from continuing to hurt you

We either manifest it by throwing a fit, yelling, and hitting or we suppress it and it comes out in forms of other physical manifestations like fatigue, over-eating, etc. All emotions need an outlet, regardless of whether or not they are good ones or bad ones. Our perception (first branch) sets the tone for how the emotion will play out. If it is a bad emotion, we need to learn to fuel it with positive energy (thinking, actions) and cut the bad off at the knees, so to speak

Emotions grow if we give them our attention and allow them to play out in full. Without the attention the emotion will die

The brain works with the spinal cord, which is the center for the senses. Emotions start here, but before the thinking brain has it, it happens in the back near the spinal cord, then must travel to the front where rational thought occurs. This is why emotions often control our responses and reactions before we have a chance to think about it. When we gain emotional intelligence, we learn how to develop the communications between the thinking or rational side with the emotional side.

Emotional intelligence comes from the communications that occurs between the rational thinking part of the brain and the emotional part of the brain.

When trying to figure out the intelligence of a person these three need to be considered for the answer. Intelligence is now how much knowledge you have; it is the ability to learn more knowledge. Add in the emotional portions and it gives the ability to sprinkle in positive attitude (integral for a successful life) and the skills to react to all things in a calm ordered manner.

One important piece of advice on improving emotional intelligence: do not judge yourself. Simply accept what was, look at what is and seek to make what will be better.

bit of advice here, whenever you are faced with a negative emotion like anger or rage, do not try to analyze it during the emotion.

elf-awareness plays a major role in the managing of your own emotions. Without this, you will never be able to grasp the whole picture. People without self-awareness go through life simply reacting out of habit.

In order to master emotional intelligence you need not look to outside things to change your emotions, but look to the inside, and understand why we feel the way we feel, and what is really behind those feelings.