Emotional Intelligence

Ever heard of the old saying "don't go to bed angry?" This saying means to take care of the issues that anger you before you suppress them and allow them to take hold of your body. Find that outlet before you rest, release them, let them go, then rest well. It is good advice and advice we all should take to heart (because it is good for our hearts!)

emotional intelligence is the act of using and viewing the emotions through perception, control, and evaluation.

Close your eyes, clench your fist and scream as loud as you can in your head. Instead of actually doing it you will be pretending to do it and this method is very effective in the spur of the moment

Stop and simply listen or observe your thoughts. What is it you daydream? Write this down, and write down what you are feeling as you do this. Not only does this help in identifying emotions, it helps you to release them as well. It also shows patterns you may experience, and will indicate triggers to emotions as well.

Bad memories are another thing that can invoke painful emotions and hurts. These types of things are often suppressed to keep from dealing with it. Write down the moments when these memories surface. The next step with bad memories is to release them as best you can. If the bad memory is from a hurt caused by another person, try to forgive the person, even if they have never asked for it. Forgiveness is a way to release them from continuing to hurt you.

Fatigue is probably the number one symptom of emotion suppression and the beginning of a long list of physical ailments if the emotion stays buried

Here is something to consider when holding in emotions. Your reaction to things in the present moment is reactions to the emotion or the situation that caused the emotion in the past. In other words, you are reacting to something in the past; you are not present in the moment. Your body hangs on to emotions, unless they are released, as they are

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All emotions need an outlet, regardless of whether or not they are good ones or bad ones.

Sometimes we tend to label emotions, assuming it is one thing without further investigation.

Employers of public businesses will require their employees always to offer a smile and a genuine offer of help, regardless of how the employee feels.

Voice your side, listen to theirs, repeat it back, and if resolution does not come, walk away.

With the reasoning of emotions, you learn to apply the positive to curtail the negative. If you do not do this, the result is a person who is ruled mainly by negative emotions

One important piece of advice on improving emotional intelligence: do not judge yourself. Simply accept what was, look at what is and seek to make what will be better.

You hold the keys here. If you are unsure, start with the intentions of being completely honest about your feelings and emotions. No one is judging you except for you. Pull off the mask and discover the real you.

Talking through a conflict requires a good listener. Even if you are the person that is feeling "wronged" still, listen to the opposing view. Let them know you heard them by repeating it back to them, never jump ahead on assumptions. Get all the facts first. If they see you are such a willing listener they may soften their reactions towards you.

empathy, interpersonal relationships, and social responsibility

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A person with a good grasp of their emotional intelligence will not react to conflicts the same way the average person will.

If an emotion appears, it needs releasing.