Master Your Emotions

Anger is beneficial to relationships
As the saying goes - the heart grows fonder with time and distance (or something like that), there is also a saying that goes something like this - arguments and fights grow people closer together. This saying (unlike the other one in my opinion), is very true in the sense that when you argue with your significant other, you are teaching and learning each others’ boundaries. When you keep your frustrations and anger inside, all you are doing is letting your partner know that what they are doing is okay and so they continue to do whatever it is that makes you angry. This can be very detrimental to any relationship. So, if you use your anger to solve problems other than vent and rage, then a strong and close relationship is what you will have

Everywhere, we see self-help books that are titled “how to get what you want through a positive attitude” or “Learn positive behaviors and say goodbye to anger and sadness forever.” What these self-help books are trying to do is brainwash your mind into thinking that the only way to grow personally and become better is to act upon positive emotions and be positive. This is false because as a person, we need to feel our negative emotions

Self-happiness refers to being completely satisfied with oneself and is generally associated with self-confidence and high self-esteem.

Happiness, although not permanent, is a more stable state and lasts longer than pleasure does.

When you accept the good with the bad, you will feel less stressed and more in control of yourself and with your life.

People who develop or improve self-motivation skills gain motivation internally rather than externally. What this means is that if you possess high emotional intelligence in terms of motivation, you are more likely to feel inspired by doing what you love and overcoming your fears if they stand in the way of your aspirations and beliefs. External motivation means that people are only driven if they are doing something for wealth, respect, or fame - i.e. external reasons - rather than personal growth or achievement.

happens when you learn how to focus on the good in others and appreciate people’s efforts rather than judging them by their past statements and actions. By inspiring someone to be their best selves through praise and positive reinforcement, you are demonstrating high emotional intelligence

motionally intelligent people show high levels of authenticity. They say what they mean, are completely honest, and do what they say they are going to do.

n emotionally intelligent person will take the feedback of others and look at it as advice (rather than criticism) and think about the intent behind the opposing party’s words. They find criticism as an opportunity for growth and realize that it gives them a window into what another person is feeling and thinking. Instead of reacting or becoming defensive with criticism, pause and ask yourself how you can make this better.

an emotionally intelligent person will know that just because they are sad, they don’t need to act on the sadness that they feel. If they cannot control their sadness, they may reach out to someone for help or write it out in their journal. They will not make someone else sad or go out of their way to be destructive because their mood is negative