Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k

The point is, you can only control how WELL you do your job, and how MUCH time and energy you put into it to minimize annoy and maximize happiness

Sort your fucks into categories

In service to the NotSorry Method, I have devised Four Categories of Potential Fuck-Giving:

Things

Work

Friends, Acquaintances, and Strangers

Family

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Not giving a fuck: The basics

Not giving a fuck means taking care of yourself first—like affixing your own oxygen mask before helping others.
Not giving a fuck means allowing yourself to say no. I don’t want to. I don’t have time. I can’t afford it.
Not giving a fuck—crucially—means releasing yourself from the worry, anxiety, fear, and guilt associated with saying no, allowing you to stop spending time you don’t have with people you don’t like doing things you don’t want to do.
Not giving a fuck means reducing mental clutter and eliminating annoying people and things from your life, freeing up space to truly enjoy all of the things you do give a fuck about.
This might sound selfish, and it is. But it also creates a better world for everyone around you.
You’ll stop worrying about all the things you have to do and start focusing on the things you want to do. You’ll be happier and more genial at work; your colleagues and clients will benefit. You’ll be better rested and more fun around friends. You might spend more time with your family—or you might spend less, making those moments you do share all the more precious.
And you’ll have more time, energy, and/or money to devote to living your best life. The people who embrace the life-changing magic of not giving a fuck are WINNING.
You want to be one of these people, don’t you?

Planning for retirement

Two weeks in rehab can be nice and all, but you needn’t get to the end of your rope only to hang yourself with it.

Well, I contend that freedom is another word for soul and that by not giving a fuck to all the wrong things, and conserving your fucks for the ones that make you happy, you stand to gain the kind of freedom that some people might even describe as… dare I say… “soul-affirming.”

Oh… you’re still talking about this? Sorry, I zoned out. Guess I won’t get invited over to watch the finale—darn!”

As someone who grew up in a household full of guilt, I think it’s important for our kids to know that they can make decisions about what to care about, and that they don’t need to pay attention to the approval or condescension of other people in deciding how to live their lives.”